Tips for toning down makeup?

Hiya folks, this’ll be my first and last prom. My mom doesn’t approve of the makeup I want and wants me to go for more of a natural look that she claims will suit my natural features better. Since I had a black dress, I wanted a dark smokey look to match. Is there anyway to tone down the intensity? I was thinking maybe a bit less silver and just a lighter hand with black and maybe some gray instead. (I also replaced the inner eye corner with a gem instead) Also, as you can see in one of the pictures, I really like the bottom lash style that you see in a lot of East Asian looks but couldn’t figure out how to get it small enough. Also, does anyone have any tips for avoiding watery eyes with mascara? Thanks so much!!